You know the friends that you used to hang out with, back when you were in Secondary school...or Polytechnic... maybe even in University (if you have been into one).
Once upon a time, you were so so close because everyone of you have a common goal and that is to study and graduate and then move on to the next phase of your life. There’s a common interest between your group of friends.
And then you slowly transit yourself into Adulthood. Everyone has their own career, got married, build their own family and not forgetting having an extension of family (read: in-laws). Simply said, your priorities shifted. Everyone is no longer available at any given time because of commitments.
But how far can these friendships that you once have “pass” the test of time?
Everyone is slowly drifting away......and just like that, you’re not close anymore.
I don't know.
People are naturally thinking for themselves and if they/we feel that others are not putting them as a priority, no matter what the reason, the relationship will somehow die down after some time.
Eg. Whenever I told some of my friends that I can't hang out because we need to be at the hospital for my MIL or that I need to rest over attending an event (hey sometimes we need to prioritise ourselves you know), you can feel the feeling of upset in their reply or the expected "Oh" because they had a feeling you're gonna cook up some "excuses". But if your friends don't understand your situation and take it with a pinch of salt by understanding, is the friendship still worth pursuing?
Hmmm...
Once upon a time, you were so so close because everyone of you have a common goal and that is to study and graduate and then move on to the next phase of your life. There’s a common interest between your group of friends.
And then you slowly transit yourself into Adulthood. Everyone has their own career, got married, build their own family and not forgetting having an extension of family (read: in-laws). Simply said, your priorities shifted. Everyone is no longer available at any given time because of commitments.
But how far can these friendships that you once have “pass” the test of time?
Everyone is slowly drifting away......and just like that, you’re not close anymore.
I don't know.
People are naturally thinking for themselves and if they/we feel that others are not putting them as a priority, no matter what the reason, the relationship will somehow die down after some time.
Eg. Whenever I told some of my friends that I can't hang out because we need to be at the hospital for my MIL or that I need to rest over attending an event (hey sometimes we need to prioritise ourselves you know), you can feel the feeling of upset in their reply or the expected "Oh" because they had a feeling you're gonna cook up some "excuses". But if your friends don't understand your situation and take it with a pinch of salt by understanding, is the friendship still worth pursuing?
Hmmm...
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