Having grown up in an environment where favouritism is evident (yes, clearly spoken), makes me wonder whether I'll be the same next time.
I'm not a parent of one yet, so I can't speak for two (or more). But it does make me wonder. Even though we always hear parents say, "I love my children all the same", but is it really? How many times do we observe & notice how different the kind of treatment each child receive from our parents? Or say from other parents who has young children?
Eg.
Child A shows tantrum, parent reprimands.
Child B shows tantrum, same, if not worst, parent keeps quiet.
And then there's also an argument raised that the reason the treatment(s) is/are different is due to the fact that not all children are the same - aligning all our fingers altogether; they are not of the same length. Every child is different.
Eg.
If we reprimand Child A, the child might understand the seriousness of it & don't do it again.
If we use the same technique on Child B, the child might be more rebellious. Hence, this technique doesn't work on the child. A friendlier approach works better.
Is this how parenting works?
But how would Child A then feel on the different treatment he/she receives?
He/She might start to develop ill-feelings towards his/her sibling & start to feel that the parents are not being fair.
Farfetched huh? Belum give birth, dah fikir macam-macam. Lol.
Had a discussion with Mr. J on this and he said, "Alaa kita just redha, and accept life as it is".
So I guess....at the end of the day, the child has to learn and adopt this (matured) mentality someday and redha that life is just as it is huh? Haha.
Well, let's just say I'll experience it myself first hand in the future when I have two (or more) of my own. Insya'Allah.
But seriously though, just curious: Do all parents have a favourite child secretly? Hmmm...
I'm not a parent of one yet, so I can't speak for two (or more). But it does make me wonder. Even though we always hear parents say, "I love my children all the same", but is it really? How many times do we observe & notice how different the kind of treatment each child receive from our parents? Or say from other parents who has young children?
Eg.
Child A shows tantrum, parent reprimands.
Child B shows tantrum, same, if not worst, parent keeps quiet.
And then there's also an argument raised that the reason the treatment(s) is/are different is due to the fact that not all children are the same - aligning all our fingers altogether; they are not of the same length. Every child is different.
Eg.
If we reprimand Child A, the child might understand the seriousness of it & don't do it again.
If we use the same technique on Child B, the child might be more rebellious. Hence, this technique doesn't work on the child. A friendlier approach works better.
Is this how parenting works?
But how would Child A then feel on the different treatment he/she receives?
He/She might start to develop ill-feelings towards his/her sibling & start to feel that the parents are not being fair.
Farfetched huh? Belum give birth, dah fikir macam-macam. Lol.
Had a discussion with Mr. J on this and he said, "Alaa kita just redha, and accept life as it is".
So I guess....at the end of the day, the child has to learn and adopt this (matured) mentality someday and redha that life is just as it is huh? Haha.
Well, let's just say I'll experience it myself first hand in the future when I have two (or more) of my own. Insya'Allah.
But seriously though, just curious: Do all parents have a favourite child secretly? Hmmm...
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